General Life Discussion

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Hey I thought I will start a topic different than others. I want to know your opinion about life itself. Few questions to begin with. We all would like to be happy, wealthy and healthy but what to do in order to achieve that ? Is it possible to have everything we want ? Are there a set combo of rules which will lead us to wherever we want to go ? What’s fixed in life and what’s in our control ? Where life begins and where does it end ?

Maybe you tried to answer these questions somewhere along the way. Here I want to give you my quick opinion and few answers that may be useful for you. If you have different opinion and want to share it with us, please do so.
First of, each of us has his own life, history and purpose in this world so comparing ourselves to each other can do more harm than good. It’s obvious that “the biggest minds” and most successful people in this world are on their place for a reason. It doesn’t mean that we can or cannot achieve as much as they did. It only shows us their story. All of us have our own and concentrating on your own life is essential to not only have better results in material world but to live happy and fulfilling life. Another thing is that fulfillment has different meanings to each of us. For me it can be being happy father and husband and helping other people, for some of you it can be achieving great business success or living a spiritual life. It doesn’t matter what it is. We all should focus on ourselves and stop comparing to others. That said, it’s always a good thing to have a mentor. Someone who can guide you thru the path you are walking by and he walked himself. That way you gain his knowledge and the road is easier.

Secondly I don’t think we can say with total certainty that we know how to ‘have it all’. We can say that we have a good strategy how to earn money in certain way, how to be more happy in life or how to build a strong and agile body. But ‘having it all’ is utopia in my opinion. It’s a place when we stop growing and evolution is something constant. We have to have problems, there has to be conflict and imperfection. Otherwise we wouldn’t learn, grow and enjoy successes. That is connected to taking responsibility for your own outcomes. Not blaming world for all the bad things. Stepping up and going thru life with bravery and self-confidence. Don’t get me wrong “life isn’t all sunshine and rainbows, it’s a nasty place…” as Sylwester Stalone once said. Sometimes, we just don’t want to see it.

So we can’t control a lot of things in life. One can say there’s more that we don’t have control over than we have. But it’s this area that we can control that determines how our life will unfold. So if I would have one thing to say it would be this: “It doesn’t matter where we end up (at the end, our life here will end at some point), it only matters what we do in the process”. What’s your opinion ? Do you agree ?

And couple of coaching questions at the end. Do you think where are you heading ? Do you have a plan of growth and improvement ? Are you a creator of your life or are you taking everything how it is and don’t bother to do nothing about it ? Are you going thru life without looking around on what people will say about you or are you constantly looking for approval ?

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There's no life without death and since we don't know what waits for us there, we can't be sure of our final life destination. I believe that death is not only the end of something but also the beginning of something new. I strongly believe that things we create here in this world not only can bring back a memory of us but also can bring back our soul to life. I know that I won't have children in the future so I concentrate on other things I can make that will live longer than myself. That's why I decided to create new poker. I want my soul to be somehow immortal, that's my purpose. Most people think it is impossible, but I still believe I can do it. There is fear inside of me that says : you might end like most of them and soon be forgotten. This fear motivates me.

Second thing I would like to mention is our roots. We all have them and they strongly influence the way we live and think. I am very proud to be European although there are a couple of things in American and Asian way of life which I truely miss sometimes. It's good to live in Europe, other parts of the world just seem to be too crazy for me.

So being aware of my life goal and my cultural roots helps me a lot in this world of madness.
Ediskrad17 thank you for response. It's very interesting what you wrote. I'm curious about two things. First what do you mean by creating new poker ? Do you mean new variation of poker ? And second thing. The fear of being forgotten. Isn't it a fear of ego ?
1. Yes, I mean a new variation of poker that can become popular worldwide. I've already created countless different variations but none of them seemed to be good enough. It's been 8 years since I started working on it. What I'm trying to do now is to make every new game better than all previous ideas all together - this might be the only way to success.

2. Yep, that might be a fear of ego. I often have problems with that. I need to watch out not to let my ego expand too much because this often leads to problems. At the same time, some people's successful life is a living proof that everything is possible. So this fear comes along with faith and believing.
“It doesn’t matter where we end up (at the end, our life here will end at some point), it only matters what we do in the process”. What’s your opinion ? Do you agree ?

Fully agree. I always strive to be living in the present moment. That said, easier said than done sometimes.
What’s fixed in life and what’s in our control ?

I believe that being succesful at Hold'em is a matter of 50% luck and 50% strategy. Same thing might be with life - things like health or relationships are mostly already fixed and determined with karma. Things like money or friendships might be somehow controlled by us. So life is only partly interactive.

What's interesting about life is that it is somewhat flexible when it comes to the way that it projects itself in our minds. If we want to see it as a story, it will become a story. If we want to see it as a video game, it will become a video game. If we want to see it as a romance and affair, it will display itself as a romance and affair. What I mean is life will send us a set of confirmation signals that our perspective is the right one. I think this flexibility of life is pretty amazing.

Since we don't know what our dreams really are, it is hard to say what life really is. It's like knowing the physics and history of the sun without knowing the physics and history of the moon. There are couple of major questions out there still not answered yet and that's why life is still so mysterious and fascinating.
Where exactly does the counciousness project itself in the brain ? Are we alone in the universe ? What do our night dreams mean ? Is there another world known as other dimension ?
I was always afraid of my future. I lived and enjoyed the moment without thinking about the consequences. It has lasted for many years. That might have been a mistake because now at age 36 I'm somehow delayed with my life. The good part is that I always kept on doing things that I love.

Being good about something means you always have to be a student. Keep learning new things and learn from your mistakes. It's a never ending path because the perfection is impossible to achieve. Be both a student and a scientist. Study what you love, study life and study your mind.

If you're bored with your life start to be creative. This may sound like a radio commercial, but what I mean is creativity kept me sane in the craziest moments of my life. Composing music, creating games, writing poems. Things like that really helped me a lot. It's good to be able to make a document of a certain moment in your life.
We all have different commanding time perspectives. Some of us are more future oriented, some present oriented and some past oriented. There is a great book called The time Paradox written by Philip Zimbardo.
Honestly recommend.
Who's deep into poker life
Knows his final destination
Cards are dealt to number five
And they build consolidation

That's the point in game of bluff
Analyze interface structure
If you haven't seen enough
You must be only a luck jerk

Flop your family and your home
Catch some money on the turn card
On the river word is born
Crush their souls but please don't break hearts

I think you are on the right track. Having a genuine interest in learning about, and finding, happiness is the important thing. If we continued to be mindful of finding joy and doing the things that make us happy, we are much more likely to feel fulfilled. Good luck in your quest.
Originally Posted by Fox

I think you are on the right track. Having a genuine interest in learning about, and finding, happiness is the important thing. If we continued to be mindful of finding joy and doing the things that make us happy, we are much more likely to feel fulfilled. Good luck in your quest.


Thank you Fox. My quest ended two weeks ago and I'm happy like never before. It took me 9 years to end this project but it was worth it. Sometimes it was a real struggle but I never gave up on it. I knew that something was there among the infinity of options. I think it was the craziest thing I could ever do. Getting back to normal life now ...
The quote I always liked: Comparison is the killer of joy.
Originally Posted by Fox

I think you are on the right track. Having a genuine interest in learning about, and finding, happiness is the important thing. If we continued to be mindful of finding joy and doing the things that make us happy, we are much more likely to feel fulfilled. Good luck in your quest.


Does everyone believe that the most important thing is for us to be happy? I feel this is one of the biggest problems in society right now. Everybody has this theory that we should all be following our dreams and it doesn't matter what anyone else says as long as you are happy. It seems like we have all become very selfish trying to find what will make ME happy and that is the end dream. As humans we need to start thinking of everyone else a bit more, and not be so self obsessed. Obviously this is easier said than done, I am one who also thinks about myself too much. Just a theory i have.
When you're happy you can share your good energy with other people.
Originally Posted by EDISKRAD17

When you're happy you can share your good energy with other people.


In what way?
Originally Posted by DaLoOnEy

Originally Posted by EDISKRAD17

When you're happy you can share your good energy with other people.


In what way?


Like a party DJ does for example. The only condition is you have to like that person. If I like somebody and this person is happy then I'm happy too.
Originally Posted by DaLoOnEy

Originally Posted by Fox

I think you are on the right track. Having a genuine interest in learning about, and finding, happiness is the important thing. If we continued to be mindful of finding joy and doing the things that make us happy, we are much more likely to feel fulfilled. Good luck in your quest.


Does everyone believe that the most important thing is for us to be happy? I feel this is one of the biggest problems in society right now. Everybody has this theory that we should all be following our dreams and it doesn't matter what anyone else says as long as you are happy. It seems like we have all become very selfish trying to find what will make ME happy and that is the end dream. As humans we need to start thinking of everyone else a bit more, and not be so self obsessed. Obviously this is easier said than done, I am one who also thinks about myself too much. Just a theory i have.


I'm certainly not like this. I work a lot of hours (doing unfun things that are profitable), and I save a lot higher % of my income then is standard (delaying gratification, with me not even being the end user of the money) I do it for my family.

But I do think you're right in general, LOTS of people are self centered nowadays.
Real happiness should last long. Money is the thing that gives you joy for a short period of time - sooner or later you will get bored. It's good when you can get happy out of small and simple things. You can then generate good vibes from any reason. If I hadn't got this ability I would have never finished my project. This skill is definitely a long lasting thing and I'm happy to have it.
EDISKRAD17 I disagree. I can be really happy in one moment and totally miserable in another one. Also money are a tool to getting a lot of things on this world. So you can buy yourself nice things, you can travel, you can pay for high level hospital and so on.
I will agree tho, with what you wrote about enjoying little things.

The easiest way to happiness is gratitude.
Originally Posted by MentalCoach

EDISKRAD17 I disagree. I can be really happy in one moment and totally miserable in another one. Also money are a tool to getting a lot of things on this world. So you can buy yourself nice things, you can travel, you can pay for high level hospital and so on.
I will agree tho, with what you wrote about enjoying little things.


So from what you wrote feeling safe and secure makes you feel happy. That's a good point indeed I can agree with that. I just think more into the future because from my perspective happiness should be something you can't lose, something that sticks with you regardless of everything even health. It may sound controversial but that's the way I understand the meaning of this word.
What you are reffering to is nirvana, samadhi. I wouldn't call that emotion or even a state. It's total awareness itself. Very hard thing to grasp.
We have next level technology, so we need next level happiness :)
I would rather say that, we need next level of consciousness in order to be able to control what we created.
I wonder where does the evolution lead us. Conquering the outer space or maybe self destruction ? Will we manage to settle on a different planet before the next global conflict starts ? After all it's the problem of our grand children and their grand children and what will they experience here on Earth. It's funny how technology lets us visualize this through special effects in movies, video games etc. The future has already been predicted in the sci-fi productions, but the precise scenario is still unknown. The only thing we can be sure of is the existance of next generations, technology progress and the power of money.
Let's focus on the present day for a while. It's still winter and I'm not happy about it at all. I'm waiting for the spring and summer to come like never before. This is going to be a crazy summer for me. Revolution in online poker is not fiction anymore and I'm so happy about it ! Hard work always pays off even when you work for free like I have for the past 9 years. Be a student, never give up and listen to music a lot ;) that would be my advice for today.
Good for you ! :)